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Lilacs & Greensleeves: Holiday Blues…Depression and the Elderly

  • Posted On December 9, 2016
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The holiday season offers many opportunities to spend quality time with family and friends. If you are a caregiver or family member of an aging loved one, you may observe a change in their mood or behavior during the holidays. You may notice unusual signs of fatigue or sadness or perhaps limited interest in the holiday season.

The winter holiday season (and the colder months which accompany it) can intensify feelings of sadness which aging seniors often experience. Most often it is not the holiday itself that cause these types of emotions among the elderly, rather the fact that the holidays tend to bring memories of earlier, perhaps happier times.

Symptoms to look for:

Depressed or irritable mood

Feelings of worthlessness or sadness

Expressions of helplessness


Loss of interest in daily activities

Loss of appetite

Weight loss

Lack of attention to personal care and hygiene


Difficulty concentrating

Irresponsible behavior

Obsessive thoughts about death and suicide

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Lilacs & Greensleeves: Professional Spotlight; Marci L. Barrett


Care4You is very honored to have Marci L. Barrett as our Professional in the Spotlight. We appreciate you, Marci!

“Marci L. Barrett, a graduate of the University of Southern California Law School, has worked with families, businesses and individuals in all types of dispute resolution proceedings for over 25 years, first as an attorney and now as a specially trained meeting facilitator and mediator.  Known for being a thoughtful listener and creative problem solver, Marci now devotes her career to the early resolution of family and community conflicts.

Marci started her own mediation practice in 2009, after discovering that her key strength as an advocate was her ability to facilitate and negotiate. In 2012, with Cynthia Saffir, she co-founded Elder Resolution Partners, LLC, which provides communication strategy, meeting facilitation and mediation services to families throughout California.”

Mediation Training:

  • Loyola Law School Center for Conflict Resolution, Mediation Training
  • La Sierra University Center for Conflict Resolution, Essentials of Elder Family Mediation Training and Dealing with High Conflict Personalities
  • High Conflict Institute, New Ways for Mediation for High Conflict Disputes
  • Southern California Mediation Association, Elder Family Mediation Seminar
  • National Association of Insurance Professionals, Communicate with Confidence course and competition

Family Communication Strategists and Elder Care Mediators

P.O. Box 1586

Arcadia, CA 91077

More Information here>

(310) 694-1455 or (626) 388-7083

Serving families and senior communities throughout Southern California.

Lilacs & Greensleeves: Mom isn’t what she used to be ~ M. Barrett


Care4You welcomes Marci Barrett with one of her thoughtful and caring writings on the Holiday Blues. Thank you, Marci!

Holiday Blues: Mom isn’t quite what she used to be.

By: Marci L. Barrett

Family Communication Strategist and Eldercare Mediator

Elder Resolution Partners, LLC

“Holidays can be fun, joyous occasions, with family members gathering from near and far. Sometimes, the holidays are the only time of year we get to see family members who travel long distances to join in a family holiday celebration. But, sometimes we also see changes that we don’t understand or weren’t expecting, like an aging loved one who is uncontrollably sad, withdrawn or “just not up to” his or her normal holiday cheer.

While family reunions give us the opportunity to catch up, share memories and make new ones, they can also be eye-opening and stressful. One cause of stress may be that family members are seeing an aging loved one for the first time in months, and may be in shock and dismay when they come face to face with changes in a parent’s (or other loved one’s) physical or mental condition.

It is clear to everyone that something is wrong and needs to be done. But what?

Often the best place to start is with a family conversation, and what better time than now that the family is gathered. Gathering and sharing information is key. The family needs to discover and understand the aging loved one’s situation, identify available resources and, if the elder is able to participate in that discussion, find out what the elder is feeling, wants and needs. Once the situation is clarified, the family can start to explore options to fulfill the elder’s wishes and take care of his or her needs, now and in the future.

Without a doubt, these family discussions can be difficult. To engage in them, we have to acknowledge and admit our mom or dad’s situation is changing and that roles in the family have changed or will need to change. We have to talk about issues with which we may feel uncomfortable, such as the need to consult with a mental healthcare professional, undergo therapy or consider medication.

Not all families are accustomed to having family conversations. Some don’t know how to start such a conversation. Others don’t know how to talk without fighting over perceived past injustices or current differences of opinion.

A specially trained neutral family meeting facilitator can help in many ways, such as helping to get the conversation started, keeping it structured and focused, and making sure that all necessary participants are present and able to express their concerns and share their ideas for how to solve the problems. A meeting facilitator can help you identify and evaluate options, with the ultimate goal being for the family to create a unique plan that allows it to move forward having made the best decisions possible under the circumstances.”


Lilacs & Greensleeves: Honoring our Veterans


Care4You is honored to show our respect in remembering all of our wonderful Veterans on Veterans Day and always!

Please enjoy this special tribute to our Military Heroes with a special “Thank You’ to our Vietnam Veterans and all who served.

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History of Veterans Day

World War I – known at the time as “The Great War” – officially ended when the Treaty of Versailles was signed on June 28, 1919, in the Palace of Versailles outside the town of Versailles, France. However, fighting ceased seven months earlier when an armistice, or temporary cessation of hostilities, between the Allied nations and Germany went into effect on the eleventh hour of the eleventh day of the eleventh month. For that reason, November 11, 1918, is generally regarded as the end of “the war to end all wars.”

Soldiers of the 353rd Infantry near a church at Stenay, Meuse in France, wait for the end of hostilities.  This photo was taken at 10:58 a.m., on November 11, 1918, two minutes before the armistice ending World War I went into effect

In November 1919, President Wilson proclaimed November 11 as the first commemoration of Armistice Day with the following words: “To us in America, the reflections of Armistice Day will be filled with solemn pride in the heroism of those who died in the country’s service and with gratitude for the victory, both because of the thing from which it has freed us and because of the opportunity it has given America to show her sympathy with peace and justice in the councils of the nations…”

The original concept for the celebration was for a day observed with parades and public meetings and a brief suspension of business beginning at 11:00 a.m.

The United States Congress officially recognized the end of World War I when it passed a concurrent resolution on June 4, 1926, with these words:

Whereas the 11th of November 1918, marked the cessation of the most destructive, sanguinary, and far reaching war in human annals and the resumption by the people of the United States of peaceful relations with other nations, which we hope may never again be severed, and

Whereas it is fitting that the recurring anniversary of this date should be commemorated with thanksgiving and prayer and exercises designed to perpetuate peace through good will and mutual understanding between nations; and

Whereas the legislatures of twenty-seven of our States have already declared November 11 to be a legal holiday: Therefore be it Resolved by the Senate (the House of Representatives concurring), that the President of the United States is requested to issue a proclamation calling upon the officials to display the flag of the United States on all Government buildings on November 11 and inviting the people of the United States to observe the day in schools and churches, or other suitable places, with appropriate ceremonies of friendly relations with all other peoples….”

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Lilacs & Greensleeves: John Dolan, Veteran of the Month


Care4You is very proud to have John E. Dolan as our Veteran of the Month! Mr. Dolan, we reach out to you with deep appreciation for your dedicated service to our country. Thank you, Sir!

Come with us and take a look at John Dolan’s history in the United States of America’s Armed Forces as he views photographs from his book of memories from World War II…

“John Edward Dolan served in the U.S. Army under General Mark Clark when he was 18 years old from June 1945 until January 1947 he served in Pisa, Italy; he served on the Fifth Army. The Fifth Army describes all the men that were stationed in Italy. He served as a military policeman and dealt with riots and he was responsible for bringing “deserters” back to their duty. Deserters were people who left the Army to make a life in Italy. Mr. Dolan also dealt with German prisoners of war. His unit received a unit citation which recognized the entire outfit and they received a merit for their duty. In honoring our Veterans,


When he completed his two years of duty, he went to Drexel College for civil engineering. When he was 25 years old, he married Gina Dolan. They met at a dance hall and knew each other for two years before they were married. He said, “[He’s] been married for 64 years to the greatest woman to ever walk this earth.” John and Gina Dolan now reside in Pasadena, California.”


Lilacs & Greensleeves: Veterans Care Coordination


Care4You is very honored to have Veterans Care Coordination as our Community Partner!! We really appreciate everything they do on behalf of our Veterans and their spouses. Thank you, so much!


At Care4You, San Dimas, CA we proudly care for our Veterans, their spouses and surviving spouses every day. Our commitment to their care is just one of the ways we demonstrate appreciation for their service to our country.

“1 in 3 seniors in this country is a veteran or surviving spouse of a veteran. These heroes – our fathers, mothers, spouses, and friends – may be eligible for a unique benefit through the VA called “Pension with Aid and Attendance.” This benefit may provide reimbursement funding of up to $25,440 a year to help cover medical expenses, including homecare services. Homecare helps keep loved ones safe and comfortable at home.”

“Millions of qualifying veterans and families go without Aid and Attendance simply because of not knowing about the benefit and inability to pay for homecare. Through our partnership with Veterans Care Coordination, we are able to assist qualifying veterans and their spouses to apply for and obtain the Aid and Attendance Benefit through the Department of Veterans Affairs. What makes this partnership unique is the fact that Veterans Care Coordination can offer financial assistance to clients that cannot afford to pay for the up-front, out of pocket expense of homecare through their Veterans Appreciation Program. Who’s Eligible?

 Veteran, or surviving spouse of a veteran, who served 90 consecutive days of active duty with at least 1 day during a wartime period …(other war eligibility may be required depending on when you served)

 Veteran/surviving spouse must have non-service connected medical condition which is not related to military service

 Veteran/surviving spouse must require assistance with daily activities, such as bathing, dressing, eating, medication management and personal care

  Veteran/surviving spouse must meet asset requirements based on age and marital (excludes home and car)

 Veteran/surviving spouse must meet the Medical Expense-to-Income Ratio.”

Couple: $2,120.00 Monthly

Veteran: $1,788.00 Monthly

Surviving Spouse:  $1,149.00 Monthly

Healthy Veteran with Sick Spouse: $1,404.00 Monthly

For more information please visit the Veterans Care Coordination website here>

Lilacs & Greensleeves: Dementia Awareness

  • Posted On October 6, 2016
  • Categorized In Awareness
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As you can see, there are several types of Dementia! The Alzheimer’s Association has a wonderful website to go to and find great information on this multifaceted disease such as:

“What is Alzheimer’s ~ What is Dementia ~ Diagnosis ~ Stages ~ Treatment”

About Dementia:

“Dementia is not a specific disease. It’s an overall term that describes a wide range of symptoms associated with a decline in memory or other thinking skills severe enough to reduce a person’s ability to perform everyday activities. Alzheimer’s disease accounts for 60 to 80 percent of cases. Vascular dementia, which occurs after a stroke, is the second most common dementia type. But there are many other conditions that can cause symptoms of dementia, including some that are reversible, such as thyroid problems and vitamin deficiencies.

Dementia is often incorrectly referred to as “senility” or “senile dementia,” which reflects the formerly widespread but incorrect belief that serious mental decline is a normal part of aging.”

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And you can know the 10 signs of Alzheimer’s opposed to what is typical!!

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What are the risk factors?

Age and Family History are two!

Let’s stand together in the fight to end Alzheimer’s as well as other forms of dementia!

Knowledge is power!!


Lilacs & Greensleeves: Susan Howland, MSG


It is our honor here at Care4You, to have Susan Howland, MSG as our Professional in the Spotlight! Thank you Susan for all that you do in your service to so many! You are truly a fine professional!

Getting to know Susan:

“I am a gerontologist who has over twenty-five years of experience with community organizing around health care issues that focus on older adults. I have worked for the past twenty years at Alzheimer’s Greater Los Angeles developing and implementing educational programs for individuals who provide care for a family member living with dementia. Given the diversity of the greater Los Angeles community, I oversee our inclusivity programs that include tailoring services to the cultural norms of ethnic communities, creating health materials in plain language and implementing nationally recognized programs for family caregivers. It is my pleasure to work for Alzheimer’s Greater Los Angeles which has allowed me to grow professionally and personally while making a significant impact improving the lives of those individuals and families impacted by Alzheimer’s and dementia.”

Susan Howland, MSG
Director of Education



Lilacs & Greensleeves: Alzheimer’s Greater Los Angeles


Care4You is honored to have Alzheimer’s Greater Los Angeles as our Community Partner! Thank you so very much for your dedicated service to our community!!

Please enjoy reading a letter from their President & CEO, Susan M. Galeas, MSW, MPH

Helping local families for 35 years… facing it together

“In January, our board chose to focus 100% of our 35-year-old nonprofit’s efforts to help local families, and keep 100% of every penny in the communities we serve.

The cost of this disease is bankrupting local individuals financially, emotionally, and physically, and the money you donate or raise by participating in our events like Walk4ALZ allows us to help at no cost. We are also raising money to support innovative, ground-breaking research here in the Greater LA area. Our change lets us commit 20% of Walk4ALZ proceeds directly to research.

Additionally, we continue to advocate on behalf of increased funding for research and resources for caregivers locally, statewide, and federally… for 35 years we’ve been on the ground making a difference for people and the cause. Today our commitment to Greater Los Angeles remains stronger than ever and we hope your commitment to us with our new name and new look remains strong as well.

Let’s face it… a diagnosis of Alzheimer’s is devastating. So until there’s a prevention, treatment, or cure… let’s face it TOGETHER.

Today…we’re launching a campaign to raise $500,000 by 12/31/16 for local care and support. check out our website to see how your gift is helping us lift hearts and build community…together.”


…help more people

…bring hope to caregivers and families

…raise awareness and change perceptions

…create dementia friendly communities

…one day prevent, treat, or cure the disease

…do more… be more… on behalf of those affected